Tiffany Arp-Daleo Artwork

Abstract Paintings, Mixed Media, Photography

Zen

6/9” Acrylic on paper

Some days test your very core, yesterday was one for me. I will spare you the details, basically we had thousands of kids in the museum for a Trunk or Treat event, cute yeah, but I suffer from extreme anxiety from loud noise and overwhelming crowds.

I couldn’t handle it. I tried to close my eyes and breath but the loud noise was too distracting and I couldn’t get away, I was trapped. It was hell. My heart was racing, I felt nauseas, I really thought I might pass out and die. I wish I had the ability to drown out the outside and get to my Zen.

It’s bound to happen again, do you have any tips or advice?

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40 responses to “Zen”

  1. Nancy's Notes 🖊️🎶 Avatar
    Nancy’s Notes 🖊️🎶

    Oh, Tiffany! What an awful situation to be in. I used to suffer terribly from anxiety until I decided I was tired of being scared. It wasn’t easy but I forced myself to just face the fear, almost taunting it to bring it on. Eventually the anxiety and panic attacks stopped. This may not be the approach for everyone but it helped me. I wish you all the best! ♡

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    1. TiffanyArpDaleo Avatar
      TiffanyArpDaleo

      Thank you Nancy, just knowing I am not the only one is comforting. I did manage to go into “survival mode” and just got through it, but it was not easy. 😰

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      1. Nancy's Notes 🖊️🎶 Avatar
        Nancy’s Notes 🖊️🎶

        Oh Lord, I know! It’s really difficult, especially those times you don’t want anyone else to know what’s going on so you put even more pressure on yourself to act normally and the last thing you’re feeling is ‘normal’! I’m sending good vibes your way and wishing you the best of luck. ♡

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        1. TiffanyArpDaleo Avatar
          TiffanyArpDaleo

          Exactly!

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  2. Katie Frances Hartless Avatar
    Katie Frances Hartless

    Sounds awful. I have my music to fall back on whenever the “real world” around me makes me feel overwhelmed. I also keep some artwork at my desk or in the back of the room. I escape into those images as well, refocus,and return when I can. 💜🎨 Be well, friend.

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    1. TiffanyArpDaleo Avatar
      TiffanyArpDaleo

      Thank you for caring and sharing Katie! Yes, when I got home, I went for a walk and then straight to the studio to paint for a couple hours!😊

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  3. Teagan Riordain Geneviene Avatar
    Teagan Riordain Geneviene

    I’m sorry, Tiffany. Somethings are so stinkin’ difficult. And they’re even harder when there’s something about the situation that other people seem to think is… innately excusable (for lack of a better term). I love this yellow and blue painting. Hugs.

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    1. TiffanyArpDaleo Avatar
      TiffanyArpDaleo

      Thank you so much Teagan, yes. And I think what made it worse was that my coworker was not sympathetic at all. I survived, I suppose that makes me stronger.

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  4. Timothy Price Avatar
    Timothy Price

    Oh man! That really sucks. I can imagine how much anxiety that would give you. Trunk and Treat sounds awful, but I’ll bet the kids loved it from all the noise that about put you in your grave. You survived to tell the tale, so there’s a slight upside to it all. Sorry I can’t offer advice on how to deal with it. I love the painting.

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    1. TiffanyArpDaleo Avatar
      TiffanyArpDaleo

      Thanks Tim, I really love Halloween, and the kids were cute, I think the extremely loud music, actually two different soundtracks, simultaneously, was what got me!

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      1. Timothy Price Avatar
        Timothy Price

        That’s enough to drive anyone insane. I don’t know why people feel the need for loud music at events. I went to an alumni homecoming party because I happened to be on campus while Laurie was in class. They had a band playing, and they were way too loud. Most alumni were my age or older and hard of hearing. Needless to say, I did not stay long because there was no way to converse with people.

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        1. TiffanyArpDaleo Avatar
          TiffanyArpDaleo

          I hear you, 😉 it’s like that at a lot of restaurants, I don’t know why they think we want to scream to converse!

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            Timothy Price

            So annoying.

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  5. Michele Lee Avatar
    Michele Lee

    So sorry you went through this Tiffany. I had similar feelings when walking through crowded high school hallways or when having to travel on buses with students. A tough one! Focused and deep breathing got me through. Sometimes humming tunes helped. Are you able to listen to soothing music, with even one earbud? That might add to the noise. Of course, knowing ahead of time is helpful, too. Be sure to get plenty of sleep before those events, ground yourself in the morning. 🌅

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    1. TiffanyArpDaleo Avatar
      TiffanyArpDaleo

      Thank you so much my friend! I’m sorry you know what I am talking about. I wasn’t prepared, no one told me anything beforehand how insane it would be, and it was too much noise and chaos all at once. We have a similar event coming up in December, so hopefully I will be better prepared for that one!😉

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      1. Michele Lee Avatar
        Michele Lee

        You’re very welcome, dear friend and best wishes for a calmer next visit. 🧘🏻‍♀️ 🤞🏻

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  6. Martha Kennedy Avatar
    Martha Kennedy

    Since my accident in January I’ve had panic attacks. I do the breathing trick. Surprisingly it works. Breathe in slowly to the count of 4; hold your breath to the count of 6; release it slowly to the count of 8. It works. Part of its success seems now to come from my knowledge that I can do that. Sometimes I have to do it several times.

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    1. TiffanyArpDaleo Avatar
      TiffanyArpDaleo

      Thank you Martha. I just saved your “recipe” to my phone and I will try it out the next time I feel overwhelmed. I hope your attacks are getting farther and fewer between!😊

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        Martha Kennedy

        I had a breakthrough yesterday — I got down onto the floor and back up twice. Today, once. It’s amazing how having that power has calmed my soul. Seriously, I get weepy thinking about it. BUT I think the recipe helped me get there. I’m going to go do it again.

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        1. TiffanyArpDaleo Avatar
          TiffanyArpDaleo

          I’m thrilled for you!!!! Keep it up, but go slowly, one breath at a time!😉

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            Martha Kennedy

            I will!! ❤️

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  7. Giadreams (themoviemylife.com) Avatar
    Giadreams (themoviemylife.com)

    I’m sorry you have to deal with that, Tiffany. If Marsha and Michele’s advice doesn’t work, don’t give up. I’m sure there’s something out there that will.
    🤗 ❤️ Your painting looks super peaceful to me. It’s like one of those ultra-wide-angle fisheye images of a scene. In your painting, I see London’s red buses and skyscrapers.

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    1. TiffanyArpDaleo Avatar
      TiffanyArpDaleo

      Thank you so much Gloria, anxiety is here to stay, I don’t think it will ever go away, so I will keep trying anything and everything to control my response! Mind over matter is a skill I need to practice!😉

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        Giadreams (themoviemylife.com)

        🤗❤️

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  8. memadtwo Avatar
    memadtwo

    I can no longer deal with crowds either. I’m so sorry. I do agree with the suggestions for deep breathing. When I have heart palpitations it always helps.
    And I love your painting. It looks like the sun’s energy reaching out to me. (K)

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    1. TiffanyArpDaleo Avatar
      TiffanyArpDaleo

      You know what I am talking about, I thought my heart might pop out of my chest! Thank you, K, just knowing I am not alone helps, kinda! 😊

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        memadtwo

        It’s hard when you’re in the midst of it.

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  9. hitandrun1964 Avatar
    hitandrun1964

    So powerful.

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    1. TiffanyArpDaleo Avatar
      TiffanyArpDaleo

      Thank you so much Gigi! 😊

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  10. Audrey Driscoll Avatar
    Audrey Driscoll

    My solution would be to run away, which doesn’t help if you’re obliged to be there. Taking a brief time out and doing the breathing methods others have mentioned might be worth trying.

    On the other hand, this painting is gorgeous, both colours and textures!

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    1. TiffanyArpDaleo Avatar
      TiffanyArpDaleo

      Thank you Audrey! You have no idea how much I wanted to run!! But, yes, I was chained to the admittance counter all day, there’s no escape! I managed, barely, at least I know what to expect if I make it to the next time! 😉

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  11. graham mcquade Avatar
    graham mcquade

    I like the energy in this one, Tiffany. As for your problems – ear plugs? or noise cancelling phones surely its a health issue here, your health.

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    1. TiffanyArpDaleo Avatar
      TiffanyArpDaleo

      Thank you so much Graham! I would have killed for ear plugs, but I was trying to converse with people so that wouldn’t work. Towards the end of the day, I demanded they turn the volume down and that helped, it really was too loud! (I sound like such an old fart!) 😂

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  12. equinoxio21 Avatar
    equinoxio21

    A great painting, but I can imagine the stress… Especially if the kids are not… how shall I say… reined in? 😉

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    1. TiffanyArpDaleo Avatar
      TiffanyArpDaleo

      Thank you Brian, yes, well behaved children (and parents) would have made the situation better, but they were all full of sugar and adrenalin!!

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      1. equinoxio21 Avatar
        equinoxio21

        At least now they’re gone… 😉

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        1. TiffanyArpDaleo Avatar
          TiffanyArpDaleo

          😊

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  13. The Mindful Migraine Blog Avatar
    The Mindful Migraine Blog

    When my anxiety gets the better of me I turn to better-breathing exercises…. or I get the heck outta there. Love the zing of the artwork 💛💙sending support, Linda xx

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    1. TiffanyArpDaleo Avatar
      TiffanyArpDaleo

      Thank you Linda! It sounds like breathing techniques are the best course of action in this situation, since leaving was not an option! 😊

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        The Mindful Migraine Blog

        🥰

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